The guide to YOUR soul-village
I am SO excited to welcome you inside my soul-village guide!
The main resource is the video above. And I also wrote you a….
...summary of my village guide:
0 Start by crafting your village vision!
Ok, I just added a step 0 to this guide 😅 But it’s a really vital one.
What even is a “village” for you? When you say that you are longing for a village, what exactly do you want? Be as specific as possible about your needs, dreams and your visions!
1 Join a real-life community/nourishing neighbourhood
You can find them in various groups on Telegram, Facebook or other platforms. This is one of my favourites and dearly loved by many. (I just received a call the other day from a mum on the other side of the world who wanted to tell me that it is her favourite group on the internet, and that she has met some of her good friends in there)!
Also, an AMAZING place for this is my re-villaging event with I host once every 1 1/2 years or so. Several people have found their new home through this event.
2 Host volunteers
Creating an almost instant, practical, tangible village right in your home – this has absolutely saved my life when I was a single mum with two toddlers, and – if life saving was not enough 😅 – brought the most AMAZING people into our homes and into our life. I honestly want to shout from the rooftops about the huge help and the most beautiful connections we have received through welcoming volunteers in our home.
There are multiple platforms and ways to find volunteers. Our absolute favourite is workaway – we have probably found 30+ of our volunteers there.
"You are the friends I've been longing for all my life", she said to us other women in ROOTED & FREE
3 Join a group (online/offline)
A huge part of the people who are part of my phenomenal, global network of like-minded people I have met through groups that I was/am part of, for example homebirth meet-ups, the postpartum care training that I did, or the peaceful parenting coaching group that I was part of when my children were small.
Recently, one of the beautiful mamas inside of my group program ROOTED & FREE joined a local in-person education – and she said to us that she NEVER would have dared to be part of this without the experience of being with our group and being reminded of the fact the there are wonderful, like-hearted mamas out there, and what it is like to have deep, nourishing, uplifting relationships based on deep trust and so much love.
Nobody will rescue us, so let's be the ones who go first, who courageously find ways and show them to others!
4 Create a group yourself (online/offline)
Another mum inside ROOTED & FREE got so encouraged through the experience in our group – also she had previously felt SO lonely, but being in our group gave her the experience that it IS possible to find others who share similar values. So, recently, she started her own local group for stay-at-home mums. Every time she comes back from there weekly gatherings, she shares with us how deeply touching it has been, and how excited and grateful she is for gathering like-hearted people IRL.
I myself have done this so many times, and it is SO powerful, SO beautiful – and SO possible!
For creating your very own group(s) and magnetising amazing people to them, it is so vital to…
5 Shine your light!
…so that your people can find you!
Make yourself visible and finable, for example by writing posts in online groups (add a picture!). Being clear and courageous is vital.
6 Clear/release & repel/protect
In case you need it: here is FULL PERMISSION 🫶🏿 to distance yourself from people or even end relationships that drain your energy, don’t serve you, or feel like “rocks in your backpack” as you are creating a life that feels healing and aligned and lights you up! In my opinion, it is SO wise to stop leaking energy, and to start protecting your energy.
And YES, repelling people (for example by shining your light) can feel scary, but it actually is so helpful to only magnetise people in your soul-village who are respectful and supportive.
3+4+5+6 = consciously & actively weaving your soul-village
…and in our family, even tool #2 (hosting volunteers) supports this since several of these volunteers have become dear friends, come back, and two of them even moved into our neighbourhood!
7 No more struggle mode
Stop glorifying struggle mode or identifying yourself with it or making your sense of self-worth dependent on the amount of sacrifice, hardship, suffering, martyrdom or struggle in your life. (This might take a little moment to sink in and to reflect on…)
8 Ask for help
Asking for help is challenging for most mums in the modern Western world. What are your beliefs around asking for help? What is holding you back?
The bigger your village of supportive, aligned people is growing where you feel safe to be vulnerable, the easier this will become.
In any case: practise asking for help! It really is like a muscle that wants to be exercised… (most of us have been so conditioned to not even considering to ask for help!)
9 Willingness to receive help
This is one to be really honest with yourself: when someone is offering you help, how do you react?
As a bonus: remember that being allowed to help others can really bring great joy and pleasure! (Have you ever offered help to others, you genuinely wanted to help and had the resources, but they refused to accept it? What did it make you feel?
Also, if you keep on rejecting others’ offer for help, they might eventually stop offering it.
If you desire more help in your life, it is so beneficial to show it to them that you WANT and APPRECIATE their help!
10 As you pray, walk your feet
Now you have a clear vision (the “prayer”) and very specific, doable tools.
What are you doing with this now? How are you walking your feet in order to make this prayer a reality? What step(should) will you be taking TODAY?
I'd LOVE to hear your vision, your next steps, and also what will be unfolding for you within the next days, weeks and months. 💜
And if you want an extra boost and personal support for your village-creation, more trampoline-people in your life and dedicated, compassionate guidance directly from me: join the next group of ROOTED & FREE or send me a DM to apply for 1:1 mentorship. I would LOVE to welcome you if we both feel that we are a soul-village match!
